I Resolve to Impress Myself

I spent a lot of my life being a people pleaser. That’s not a good thing. It’s a sign of a codependent person. It implies that there is a strong neediness, in this case a need for love and acceptance. It sets a person up for a codependent relationship where one is the giver and the other a taker, fertile ground for growing resentments. At it’s extreme, being a people pleaser is ugly. No one likes a spineless, wishy-washy person. I like to think I was not that bad. I think of myself as a pretty capable person, so my flavor of people pleasing was trying to impress others. I needed the approval of others, and I avoided conflict, even if I had to give up something that I really should have stood for. That’s when people pleasing is harmful to ones own self, when you give up your own wants/needs/values just to please the other person so they will love you.

I am well beyond all that now. I am comfortable in my own skin. I can take good care of myself, in every way. I have a good sense of my own set of rights and wrongs, and I am true to them today. I don’t need everyone to like me. I can say no. I can identify what I want and what I need. It doesn’t mean I’m selfish. Quite to the contrary, I have always been and still am a giving person. But I no longer let others take advantage of me.

And this leads me to the whole point of this post. It is a New Year’s Resolution post. I have realized that I no longer need to impress others. I am what I am, take it or leave it. Take me or leave me. But that doesn’t mean I don’t care how I am, how I act. What I have also realized is that the only person I want to impress is my own self! I want to be the best that I can be in every way. I want to catch myself doing things well. Really well.

This should be a fun resolution!

7 thoughts on “I Resolve to Impress Myself”

  1. I think you are on to something here. Looking in the mirror and liking what you see is what it's all about. Good for you. Excellent resolution.

    Have a terrific day. Big hug to you both. 🙂

  2. Mike~

    LOL! Yes! You are ahead of the pack and I'm trying to catch up!


    Thanks! At first it sounded a little selfish, but it's really not. It helps with all my relationships with people!


    Thank you! It should be easy for you because you are already so cool! 🙂

  3. I can relate to being a people-pleaser. It almost crippled me when I was young. Since I didn't want anybody to see me doing anything badly, I never really tried to do anything. I'd start something, see myself doing it horribly, and then quit whatever it was (drama club, sports, etc.) It was only after I stopped caring what people might think that I got into cycling and re-ignited my interest in travel.

    Great resolution! 🙂

  4. Elaine~

    Thanks! I'm glad we get something for getting older besides aches and pains! 🙂


    Don't you wish sometimes we could have a do-over? Not for everything, but for some things? Well, I'm glad that's not holding you back any longer. You are such a cool person, with such a unique perspective, it would be a shame if you didn't let your light shine!

Leave a comment :-)

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.